Monday, October 13, 2008

SITS giveaways & "the one"

I have a lot of pictures to work on and funny stories to tell, but first I have to tell about a HUGE giveaway that is going on tomorrow/today depending on when you read this. Go to this website:

They are always giving away good prizes, and all you have to do is leave comments on their blog and the blogs they feature. But today they are giving something away every hour. So you have to check every hour and leave a comment and also post about it on your blog. So go check it out. There are some cute prizes.
Here are some fun blogs I have found through SITS:
One Crafty Mama
Something to Blog About
Pennies in my Pocket
Nanny Goats in Panties
Parenting Pink

Now, lets talk...about soul mates. I like to refer to it as "the one". Let's start at the beginning. I watched a lot of disney movies growing up. The first movie that I remember seeing in a theatre was Little Mermaid. I cried so hard at the end because she has to leave her family. But there was clearly no other alternative, because Erik is the only one for her. Nevermind that they are different species and in real life it would probably be illegal. To get to the point, I desperately believed in "the one" until I was 16. Then I started dating and realized that boys are horrible people. What if my soul mate had something terribly wrong with them? Something that would totally complement my bedwetting. So then I decided that I should have some say in who I ended up with, so maybe there were 4 or 5 people that were perfect for me. It didn't take long to see the flaws in that plan. (What if I marry one and then find Mr. Perfect #4 after lots of disappointments and 3 kids with #1? You see the problem. Well, you probably see the problems of this everyday in your neighborhoods and on tv and at the grocery store,etc.)

So it was at about this confusing time in my simple carefree life that Joey came along. I thought he was just perfect for me. Who cared about #'s 2,3&4 when he was so great. What could possible ever go wrong with this one for the REST of our lives?? Until one night we were sitting around talking and somehow the subject of "the one" came up. I have a very clear memory of Joey laughing in my face. Of course it was absurd and I see that now. So that was one of the first lessons that Joey taught me. He helped me to see that we are free to make our own decisions. That is why it is important to choose someone who shares your beliefs,etc. and someone that you feel like you can get along with for the rest of your life. Then of course you have to work really hard at it. So Belle COULD have chosen the better looking and more able to protect her, GASTON, instead of the ugly even after the magic happens, BEAST.

Well anyway, I was really upset with Joey for awhile. I could see that he was making sense and that I had been being silly. But I also felt like he didn't think I wasn't special and that he felt like he could marry anyone and that it was a lot of work to get a long with me. I am kind of sensitive. That was the only time that we ever even remotely talked about marriage until Joey got down on one knee and I told him to "shut-up". But that is another story. Since then I have become a firm believer in free agency and no longer believe in "the one" or "the 5". So do your worst Joey, I'm not going anywhere and I don't really care anymore anyway. Haha. Granted, you may be happier with one person than another, but any couple can make it work as long as their heart is in the right place. President Spencer W. Kimball says that "Soulmates are fiction and illusion..." President Boyd K. Packer teaches us that it is a matter of "choosing rather than seeking."

So I worry about these young girls who watch a lot of barbie and disney movies. I want to tell them that in the original version of Little Mermaid, she doesn't marry the prince. He CHOOSES someone else and she dies at sunset after he gets married. And the sea witch doesn't put her voice in a lovely shell around her neck,
SHE CUTS OUT HER TONGUE. And mermaids don't have souls, it's actually really a complicated little story and I probably should have read it before I read it to my 4 year old. And in sleeping beauty, she isn't awakened by "true loves" kiss. She is only awakened by the kiss of the first guy that can tear through the briars to her castle. And it takes 200 years!! Well I guess that takes away her free agency, so it doesn't really apply to this argument.

In any case, I am glad to hear all of your opinions. Maybe there is hope for all of those silly little girls out there who think they are special.

Well that was a terribly long post with no pictures, sorry.


Sarah Jo said...

I still like all the Disney classics, but I see your point. Thanks for the giveaway info, I have nothing going on today so I will be entering hourly.

Nat said...

Oh Suzy! You're so funny! I hope you blog about Joey's proposal! I am curious now!

You have a very good point on "the one", but it doesn't make a very comforting fairy tale. Maybe that is why Disney and Barbie movies are so far-fetched. Luckily I have all boys who think anything "lovey" is retarted. I guess they don't really get over that, do they?! :) said...

Ha great post!


Megan said...

Happy Blog-A-Thon Day!!!!

Amber Goddard said...

This is Amber Koss. Well Goddard for 6 years now. I jioned SITS just recently and was looking around and found your blogs! It's good to see what's going on in your life!

By the way I love your pictures you take!

koopermom said...

Happy SITS blogathon!

I've been thinking about "soulmates" a lot lately, so I was glad to find your post and your take on it!!

Natalie said...


Great post :)

Stopping by to wish you a Happy Blog-a-thon!

WheresMyAngels said...

OMGosh, I didnt' know that and didn't want to know that about the Little Mermaid! Those older stories are pretty violent at times aren't they!

Happy SITSathon day!

Laura Ingalls Gunn said...

I am not doing a SITS post today as I am celebrating my 100th post. Please stop by and enter my giveaway.

Kori said...

Happy Blogathon Day from one SITSta to another!

Jen Sue Wild said...

Fun Blog!!!! Happy blogathon;)

Meaghan said...

Love the pics of your family :) Happy SITS blogathon!


Nanny Goats In Panties said...

Oh my gosh! Thanks so much for the linky love! You rock!!!

Happy Bloggython Day, SITSta! How fun is this? Woo hoo!

Toph and Al said...

GREAT you just ruined my life Suzy! Haha.